Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Not tonight honey, I have a headache
Do you find yourself always making up excuses as to why you can’t have sex tonight? Is the headache line getting old? Do you rush off to bed early in hopes that you will be asleep before you husband comes to bed? Is your lack of desire for intimacy affecting your relationship? Are you ready for help but have no idea where to start? If yes, continue reading.
Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD) is a common but treatable problem. FSD encompasses problems with desire and sexual response. There are many issues that can contribute to FSD. Many women will suffer from some form of FSD during their lifetime. For some, FSD is a lifelong issue and for others it is short term and can occur at any point. The first step in correcting FSD is to determine the cause.
Pain with intercourse is a common contributor to FSD. Many women falsely believe that pain with intercourse is normal and therefore never address the issue. The pain can lead to a subconscious or even conscious avoidance of intimacy as a protective mechanism. Often correcting the pain issue will resolve the desire and response issues. Ladies, sex should be enjoyable, not painful!
Hormones can also play a role in FSD. Many women experience issues with sexual functioning during peri-menopause and menopause as well as after pregnancy. The alternating or decreasing hormone levels can cause issues with sexual functioning. Regulating the hormone levels can often improve sexual functioning. All women are not candidates for hormone replacement therefore it is important to discuss this with your provider.
Medications can be another contributor to FSD. Antidepressants, blood pressure medications, and birth control pills are just some of the medications that can contribute to decreased desire and response. These medications however, serve a purpose and should not be discontinued without first consulting with your healthcare provider. Often times changing a medication instead of stopping a medication can resolve the issue.
Relationship issues can halt intimacy right in its tracks. For women, if you are not feeling the love, then neither is he. Consider individual or couples counseling to help improve communication and your relationship and get your sex life back on track.
This is not an exhaustive list of causes of FSD, but simply a starting point. If you are suffering from FSD (Low desire or lack of sexual response), help is available. Contact your healthcare provider or a specialist in female sexual dysfunction and address the issue. The first step is the hardest, but in the end rewarding.